if youre born a lion dont bother tryin to act tame

wormwoodandhoney: girls fighting evil: roaring 20s Black cat...

Tue, 14 May 2013 03:03:49 -0700

girls fighting evil: roaring 20s

Black cat on my door-step, black cat on my window-sill
If one black cat don’t cross me, another black cat will

black cat, hoot owl blues- ma rainey

(they’re out for the night when the things come for them at the cotton club. but hell, they’re not afraid of nothing, not even monsters. it’s the 20s. ladies are the monsters now.)

"If your concern is that you as a man aren’t given space in feminism instead of the fact that women..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 03:03:22 -0700

“If your concern is that you as a man aren’t given space in feminism instead of the fact that women aren’t given space anywhere but feminism, then you are not a feminist ally. You’re an egotistical whiny dude.”

- (via fuckingrapeculture)

Reblog this post if you understand that rape is not funny.

Tue, 14 May 2013 03:03:08 -0700

brandnoose: brandnoose: every time you swallow a guy’s load, you’re swallowing millions of unborn...

Tue, 14 May 2013 03:01:18 -0700

brandnoose:

brandnoose:

every time you swallow a guy’s load, you’re swallowing millions of unborn babies

how fuckin metal is that

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kbs-was-here: The irony that folks are bitching about this article, saying it says they’re nothing...

Tue, 14 May 2013 02:58:49 -0700

kbs-was-here:

The irony that folks are bitching about this article, saying it says they’re nothing but a self-absorbed generation, yet they haven’t bothered to actually read it because they’re so focused on themselves.

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An Open Letter to Men Who Describe Themselves as 'Chubby Chasers'

Tue, 14 May 2013 02:54:23 -0700

fat-feminist:

You should probably take “fat female appreciator” out of your bio. It’s cool that you can accept non-conventional beauty but fetishizing fat women and thinking of it as a personality trait worth mentioning in just the few sentences you shared about yourself is definitely creepy and is generally regarded as pretty fatphobic and honestly kind of misogynistic in general. Just like..commodifying members of a marginalized group is kind of shitty.

As a fat woman it feels shitty to feel like men have to love us in a way that is different than the way men love conventionally attractive women. It feels like being part of a porn category as opposed to being a legitimate potential romantic partner. It’s never reassuring to feel like you’re mostly attractive to someone because you’re fat- not because you have nice eyes and they lay closely to your nose which compliments your lips and hair, which accentuates the curve of your back; all of the things that contribute to making one person attractive to another, a sort of equation of things comprised into one human that is for some combination of traits is attractive to another. It is a perpetuation of the way society reduces fat women to just that: fat.

Being a fat woman aware of fat politics means being consistently wary of the men who take interest in you. I find myself having to ask a series of questions when first dating men: Do you usually date fat women? Why? Are you only attracted to fat women? Do you identify as a chubby chaser? These are not a way to determine if the person in question is worthy of my time, more so they are a method of fat-validation, a way to determine if my partner is interested in me because they are attracted to me or if they are merely playing out a fantasy based on the “We <3 Big Girls” thread they subscribe to on Reddit.

Furthermore, claiming “chubby chaser” as part of your identity serves, in the minds of men like you as an invitation. It is a way of saying “Don’t worry fat girls! It will all work out because finally a man is here to validate your existence. You can be whole now that you understand that I exist and am attracted to people who look like you.” The sting of being deemed as disgusting by society is not erased by men hoping to bank on the perceived insecurities that this stigmatization may have caused.

In conclusion: Asserting that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure is not an effective, kind, nor flattering way to make yourself attractive to any women, much less fat ones. We do not need your validation. We do not accept your perpetuation of the reduction of fat women to our adipose tissue. You may “appreciate” us, but we do not appreciate you.

- fat-feminist

fat-feminist: sexistfacebookdudes: fuckyour-rapeculture: Codi...

Tue, 14 May 2013 02:51:38 -0700

fat-feminist:

sexistfacebookdudes:

fuckyour-rapeculture:

Codi Kissell is a potential rapist.

Before anyone complains that he’s “just joking” and saying he is a potential rapist is too harsh… If people don’t want to be labeled a potential rapist, it’s quite simple: don’t say rapey shit that makes you sound like a potential rapist.

He has the right to make this “joke”, just as we have the right to label him a potential rapist as a result. It goes both ways.

Men who joke about roofing women are definitely potential rapists. Because men who think rape is funny, think rape is funny. What’s the first step in thinking it’s okay to rape women? Thinking that rape isn’t a serious, traumatic, inhumane and cruel attack that over a third of the world’s women experience, and furthermore one that should never be taken lightly or laughed about.

fat-feminist: YES

Tue, 14 May 2013 02:49:29 -0700

fat-feminist:

YES

fuckyeahmoleskines: The owl and the...

Tue, 14 May 2013 02:48:57 -0700

fuckyeahmoleskines:

The owl and the pussycat.
http://pencilfury.tumblr.com/
More perspective illustrations!

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Tue, 14 May 2013 00:23:09 -0700

frustratinglysimple: “The Most Popular Girls In Paris” - Jay-Z...

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:21:45 -0700

frustratinglysimple:

“The Most Popular Girls In Paris” - Jay-Z & Kanye West ft. Deandra The New Girl

"A long time ago, when you were a wee thing, you learned something, some way to cope, something that,..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:20:26 -0700

“A long time ago, when you were a wee thing, you learned something, some way to cope, something that, if you did it, would help you survive. It wasn’t the healthiest thing, it wasn’t gonna get you free, but it was gonna keep you alive. You learned it, at five or six, and it worked, it *did* help you survive. You carried it with you all your life, used it whenever you needed it. It got you out—out of your assbackwards town, away from an abuser, out of range of your mother’s un-love. Or whatever. It worked for you. You’re still here now partly because of this thing that you learned. The thing is, though, at some point you stopped needing it. At some point, you got far enough away, surrounded yourself with people who love you. You survived. And because you survived, you now had a shot at more than just staying alive. You had a shot now at getting free. But that thing that you learned when you were five was not then and is not now designed to help you be free. It is designed only to help you survive. And, in fact, it keeps you from being free. You need to figure out what this thing is and work your ass off to un-learn it. Because the things we learn to do to survive at all costs are not the things that will help us get FREE. Getting free is a whole different journey altogether.”

- Mia McKenzie, creator of Black Girl Dangerous, author of The Summer We Got Free (via etiquette-etc)

i think i gasped a little when i read this because it’s almost word-for-word my therapist’s explanation of why i learned to be anxious as a child (“if your dad might blow up at any minute then your anxiety protects you”) and why it’s not helping me now (“he’s not here anymore”).

(via dorightwoman)

Tehmina Durrani | The Woman Behind The Revolution [x] Tehmina...

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:17:05 -0700

Tehmina Durrani | The Woman Behind The Revolution [x]

Tehmina Durrani is a Pakistani author and activist. For 13 years, she was married to Ghulam Mustafa Khar, the former Governor of Punjab and one of the most powerful men in the country during the 70s and 80s. She chronicled her marriage in the 1991 book, My Feudal Lord, where she describes the abuse, torture, rape and humiliation she suffered at the hands of Khar.

She faced criticism not only for speaking out against Khar, but also for staying in the marriage for 13 years and having children with him. Reviews of the book to this day disparage her for not leaving sooner or seeking help or doing more to protect her children, despite Khar commanding tremendous power and influence. On page 156, she writes: “What could the police do? They would admonish Mustafa, but sooner or later I would be alone with him, in a worse predicament than before. My silence was not to protect Mustafa; it was to protect myself.”

In 1997, Ghulam Mustafa Khar’s son, Bilal, married a woman named Fakhra Yunus. She too suffered physical abuse at the hands of her husband and escaped after three years to return to her mother’s home. However, in April 2000, Bilal Khar tracked her down and threw acid in her face while she slept. After being released from the hospital, she returned to Bilal and reached out to Tehmina Durrani for help. Tehmina intervened and took Fakhra into her own house despite facing death threats from the Khar family.

Tehmina Durrani is now the author of several books and an activist for Pakistani women and rights of the poor. Her efforts to help Fakhra were detailed in a 2001 Time Magazine article entitled “The Evil That Men Do” which also contained this iconic graphic photograph of the two of them. Fakhra Younus committed suicide on March 17, 2012 at the age of 33. Bilal Khar was acquitted of all charges.

"Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally..."

Tue, 14 May 2013 00:14:25 -0700

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Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.

”

- Lindy West for Jezebel: “If I Admit That ‘Hating Men’ Is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?” (via lauratheoutlandish)

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