girls fighting evil: roaring 20s
Black cat on my door-step, black cat on my window-sill
If one black cat don’t cross me, another black cat will
black cat, hoot owl blues- ma rainey
(they’re out for the night when the things come for them at the cotton club. but hell, they’re not afraid of nothing, not even monsters. it’s the 20s. ladies are the monsters now.)
every time you swallow a guy’s load, you’re swallowing millions of unborn babies
how fuckin metal is that
The irony that folks are bitching about this article, saying it says they’re nothing but a self-absorbed generation, yet they haven’t bothered to actually read it because they’re so focused on themselves.
You should probably take “fat female appreciator” out of your bio. It’s cool that you can accept non-conventional beauty but fetishizing fat women and thinking of it as a personality trait worth mentioning in just the few sentences you shared about yourself is definitely creepy and is generally regarded as pretty fatphobic and honestly kind of misogynistic in general. Just like..commodifying members of a marginalized group is kind of shitty.
As a fat woman it feels shitty to feel like men have to love us in a way that is different than the way men love conventionally attractive women. It feels like being part of a porn category as opposed to being a legitimate potential romantic partner. It’s never reassuring to feel like you’re mostly attractive to someone because you’re fat- not because you have nice eyes and they lay closely to your nose which compliments your lips and hair, which accentuates the curve of your back; all of the things that contribute to making one person attractive to another, a sort of equation of things comprised into one human that is for some combination of traits is attractive to another. It is a perpetuation of the way society reduces fat women to just that: fat.
Being a fat woman aware of fat politics means being consistently wary of the men who take interest in you. I find myself having to ask a series of questions when first dating men: Do you usually date fat women? Why? Are you only attracted to fat women? Do you identify as a chubby chaser? These are not a way to determine if the person in question is worthy of my time, more so they are a method of fat-validation, a way to determine if my partner is interested in me because they are attracted to me or if they are merely playing out a fantasy based on the “We <3 Big Girls” thread they subscribe to on Reddit.
Furthermore, claiming “chubby chaser” as part of your identity serves, in the minds of men like you as an invitation. It is a way of saying “Don’t worry fat girls! It will all work out because finally a man is here to validate your existence. You can be whole now that you understand that I exist and am attracted to people who look like you.” The sting of being deemed as disgusting by society is not erased by men hoping to bank on the perceived insecurities that this stigmatization may have caused.
In conclusion: Asserting that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure is not an effective, kind, nor flattering way to make yourself attractive to any women, much less fat ones. We do not need your validation. We do not accept your perpetuation of the reduction of fat women to our adipose tissue. You may “appreciate” us, but we do not appreciate you.
Codi Kissell is a potential rapist.Before anyone complains that he’s “just joking” and saying he is a potential rapist is too harsh… If people don’t want to be labeled a potential rapist, it’s quite simple: don’t say rapey shit that makes you sound like a potential rapist.
He has the right to make this “joke”, just as we have the right to label him a potential rapist as a result. It goes both ways.
Men who joke about roofing women are definitely potential rapists. Because men who think rape is funny, think rape is funny. What’s the first step in thinking it’s okay to rape women? Thinking that rape isn’t a serious, traumatic, inhumane and cruel attack that over a third of the world’s women experience, and furthermore one that should never be taken lightly or laughed about.
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